As a mum I believe we need other mum's around us that get us. That we connect with on a deeper level, not that we just both have babies.
Over the weekend I felt so blessed to have organised and held space for two other mama's to come together and chat over morning tea at a fancy 5 star hotel in Melbourne. We drank a glass of champagne and mentioned how we felt guilty about having a glass of bubbles (mama guilt, and this was the main topic of conversation. Funny that!). We ate yummy sandwiches, scones with jam & cream and petits fours. Waiters topped up our water glasses constantly and asking us what type of tea we would like to drink. We were dressed up and felt like women, not just mum with dribble on our t-shirts and food in our hair. It was so refreshing. We also connected as three mum's who could openly chat about what we struggle with, what we love and how we are going as mum's.
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Relationships are so beautiful...you have a deep connection to another person, so much so you may want to spend the rest of your life with that person.
I have had a couple of long term relationships before I met my now hubby. Each one I thought was forever, that was until I met my husband almost 7 years ago. There was something different about him. I got all giddy and my heart skipped a beat...things that never happened before with other boys that I met. I knew straight away that this man was the one for me, forever. And I still feel this way. As corny and clique as it sounds, I love him more and more every anniversary. Honest. When I fell pregnant and then had our daughter, something changed within me, in the sense of the way I viewed my body. I felt different about myself which made me pull back a little bit from him. I was and still am breastfeeding, and I felt as though my boobs were my daughters (I am working through this perception now which is so good). I gave birth naturally and tore, so I felt disconnected from my yoni. Was I ever going to be or feel the same about my body again? I sure hoped so! If you are feeling this way, I want to share with you some of my tips to get that spark back into your relationship that I have tried and am still working on. Let me ask you this...when was the last time you felt sexy in your skin?
Was it before you got pregnant? During pregnancy? Or after you had your baby? For many women I'm sure it was probably before they got pregnant, me included. I think this is such a sad thought, why can't we feel sexy in our skin during pregnancy and afterwards? We think sexy needs to be a certain way, but I disagree. Sexy is your own interpretation! Being pregnant has to be the most feminine and sensual thing you can do. But at the same time, our bodies have changed shape, we feel bloated or 'fat'. Our ankles are starting to disappear and you can no longer see your feet. What is sexy about that? A lot! Some women feel super sexy and sensual during their pregnancy and I say 'you go girl'. Have sex, wear lingerie and rock that bump! Since having my daughter I have felt a real disconnect in myself; emotionally, physically and spiritually.
I look at myself in the mirror and am still coming to terms with the changes I see. My body isn't what it was before - after all I carried and birthed a child so how can I expect it to be? But we do...we expect it to be what it was in the past. It never is going to be, so let's embrace the changes and learn to connect with ourselves again. In the below video blog I give you some of my favourite tools at the moment I am using to connect back to myself and live from my feminine energy instead of the striving and pushing masculine energy that I have been friends with for far too long. Whether you are a mum or not, if you are feeling a disconnect from yourself, this video blog is for you. Did you know that your skin is the largest organ in your body?
Yep it sure is, and you need to take good care of it. Whatever you put on your skin is directly absorbed into your blood stream. A scary thought! Mid last year, I made the decision to change over to natural, and organic where possible, beauty products. Every single one of them! I had enough of putting all sorts of chemicals on my face and body. Words I couldn't pronounce, let alone even know what they are. And hearing about animal testing, took it to a whole new level for this animal lover...they put all the make up on monkey's?! WTF??!! How horrible is that? I didn't want to waste products, so as I used up my brand name beauty items, I replaced them with natural one's instead. Doing this can be quite daunting because you wonder if natural ingredients can do the same as chemical based. Will you get the colour you want? Or the long eye lashes? Or the smooth skin? And the answer is...YES!! |