Let me ask you this...when was the last time you felt sexy in your skin?
Was it before you got pregnant? During pregnancy? Or after you had your baby?
For many women I'm sure it was probably before they got pregnant, me included. I think this is such a sad thought, why can't we feel sexy in our skin during pregnancy and afterwards? We think sexy needs to be a certain way, but I disagree.
Sexy is your own interpretation!
Being pregnant has to be the most feminine and sensual thing you can do. But at the same time, our bodies have changed shape, we feel bloated or 'fat'. Our ankles are starting to disappear and you can no longer see your feet. What is sexy about that?
A lot! Some women feel super sexy and sensual during their pregnancy and I say 'you go girl'. Have sex, wear lingerie and rock that bump!
Breastfeeding can bring up a whole other thought pattern, thinking your boobs are the food source for your baby so having your partner go near them can be a little weird. Or maybe you have stopped breastfeeding and your boobs have lost a bit of their shape.
Believe me, I'm sure your partner hasn't even thought of these things. It is all in our own mind, and it all comes back to our own body confidence.
As I am connecting back to my body, I can say that I'm allowing myself to feel sexy again. I look in the mirror and stop myself from criticising what is no longer the same. It takes some practice but it gets you on the path of changing your mindset to a more positive perspective.
I want to set you a challenge... in the next 48 hours you are not allowed to criticise your body at all. If something negative starts to pop into your head, stop it and change it into a positive.
Example..."look at those stretch marks" change that to something like "look at how hot my bum looks" or "I rock because I carried and birthed a baby, what an achievement that is!"
Do you accept the challenge? Let me know how you go!
Another thing that has helped me to feel sexier is getting back into exercise. I feel stronger, healthier and a lot more comfortable in my own skin. My clothes also fit better and I have more energy. All these things are great for your body confidence.
If exercise is new to you, never fear, you don't need to all of a sudden become a gym junkie; just do some movement at home. Whether that is dancing around to your favourite songs for 30 minutes a couple of times per week, going for daily walks or checking out YouTube for some at home exercise sessions. Any type of movement counts. Check out my Online Mama Fitness Personal Training as another option for you as well.
Body confidence is multiple things all wrapped up into one, so if you can tackle one thing at a time, you will begin to feel sexier in your skin, and every woman deserves to feel that way.
What are some of your body thoughts? And how can you turn them into a positive? Share with us in the comments below.
Be happy & healthy,