Tantrums, ignoring and just being rude is all part of the 2-3 year old life. And boy is it frustrating!
Miss A is very stubborn and very strong willed, so when I tell her not to do something. she just does it any way. I tried timeout, counting to three and at times yelling because I was seeing red with frustration all to no avail.
"How am I going to get through to this child??!! "Was a constant thought going through my mind.
I remember my husband telling me about a goal sheet he had as a child and how it worked really well for him. So after telling Miss A "stop doing that" for the hundredth time that day, I decided to give the goal sheet a try to see if that would stop her from jumping on the couch. And sure enough it did!
She now doesn't jump on the couch, or if she goes to all I need to say is "you won't get a sticker" and she sits back down.
It really has helped me not to get so frustrated with her doing the things she shouldn't be doing. Plus she is learning a life lesson that behaviour has consequences, positive or negative, and if she works hard she will get a reward at the end of it.
HOW IT WORKS:
+ Print out the goal sheet, and with your child, come up with some tasks that they want to work towards that week and the reward they would like. For instance, with Miss A we have "I will not jump on the couch", "I will make my bed" and "I will pack up my toys at the end of the day". The tasks will obviously be determined by their age - so go with goals that are achievable for your child. You want to empower them.
+ Write the tasks on the goal sheet and pop it on the fridge or somewhere easily accessible.
+ At the end of each day take your child over to the goal sheet and put stickers in the boxes for the tasks that they completed successfully that day.
+ Make it fun and exciting and if they don't do a task that day, don't get angry, just explain why they didn't get a sticker but they can try again tomorrow.
+ Once they have stickers in all the boxes take them to the shop to get their reward. It may take a couple of weeks to fill up the goal sheet but that is totally fine. Again, it is about teaching them and empowering them.
I hope you find this to be helpful for your child/ren. If you have any questions please leave them in the comments below.
Be happy & healthy,