Alone time can be scary for some people. Being in your own company with only your own thoughts can be daunting and super uncomfortable.
Some of my clients get anxious at just the thought of being on their own. They don't know what thoughts and feelings might come to the surface. But I gently nudge them in the direction of giving it a go and pushing through that resistance.
Being with your own thoughts can be scary to some, but it can also provide the answers you are looking for with things that are going on in your life.
I love working with mum's to help them reconnect with themselves after having a baby (whether it is baby number one, or baby number three). And when this disconnect pops up for them, they want to do anything but be by themselves because it is scary.
If this is you, I want you to ask yourself this question...why and where am I feeling disconnected in myself?
A lot of the time, the answer is I don't know.
A gap has formed between your heart space and your head. The answer is being blocked because you won't allow yourself the space to explore this further.
Sometimes emotions and feelings are pushed deep down and not dealt with. So the thought of this coming up stops you from doing the hard work to find the answer to my question above...why and where are you feeling disconnected?
If you are nodding in agreement thinking, "yep this is me", I would love for you to try being alone with yourself.
Go for a walk out in nature.
Head to your local cafe for a coffee.
Sit in silence with a candle burning and some relaxing music playing in the background.
Anything that gives you space to be with your thoughts.
You may sit there for a while and nothing happens...so try again another day. But keep trying until the emotions and feelings surface.
You may sit there and instantly burst into tears...go with it and allow them to flow. Energy is being released which is what you want. You want to let go and surrender.
When you are doing this exercise have your journal or notebook with you so you can note down anything that comes up. Don't think about it too much, just let the words flow. The words at the beginning might just be about your day or the kids, but keep going with it and the gems will soon surface.
Now this practice might take you weeks to get to that point of release and healing, but don't give up on it.
Nothing changes if nothing changes.
You deserve to feel connected with yourself, so do the work.
Work through the resistance, uncomfortableness and anxiety.
Allow your truth to come forward.
Are you someone who pushes down her emotions and feelings? Do you feel disconnected from yourself and not know why? Share with me in the comments below, I would love to hear from you.
Be happy & healthy,