It is definitely the most rewarding job but of course at the same time it is a lot of hard work.
My daughter has taught me so much in her short time of being on this Earth and I've learnt a lot about myself as well. Including deep down I am a patient person. I have never been a patient person but with Ava I am completely patient and calm which is exactly what I wanted to be.
You know the saying "Calm mum, calm baby."
Ava is a good sleeper and she feeds really well, so I'm a lucky one. I have been given the easy baby first like so many mum's before me. But today I wanted to share with you my truth's and the funny things you do as a mum that I thought I may not do. You do whatever you need to do to get a calm and content baby.
Here are my truths and learning's so far...
+ I didn't want to use the dummy too soon, but that lasted two weeks. Sometimes they just need to soothe themselves and this is what a dummy can do for them. Ava isn't a big fan of her dummy so she spits it out when she is done.
+ I go in to check on Ava to make sure she is still asleep and if by some chance she has woken and has her eyes open, I quickly retreat back before she see's me. If I am caught, I sit on the floor out of her eye sight and rock her bassinet until she goes back to sleep.
+ I often tip toe out of her room to make sure I don't make a peep after spending ages settling her down and finally getting her to sleep. I am yet to do the army crawl but I can see that happening at some stage.
+ I'm a routine type of person and I thought I would be able to get Ava into a routine because the books said you could...HA, yeah right! I now feed Ava on demand. I go by her schedule and not mine. It makes life a lot easier and sometimes she even treats me to a longer gap between feeds. Thanks bubba!
+ Breastfeeding has made me HUNGRY!! I have always loved my food, but while breastfeeding my portions have increased by a lot. They say you burn up to 500 extra calories a day breastfeeding so I'm okay with the extra food. No guilt because my body isn't only nourishing me, it is nourishing my daughter. Listen to your body first and foremost.
+ Breastfeeding is hard and painful!!
The first couple of days before my milk came in, Ava was a sleepy baby on the boob so it was really hard to get her to latch on and stay awake. She lost more than the 10% weight loss in the first three days so I had to express to make sure she was getting what she needed. A lovely midwife then suggested I strip her down and make sure she isn't cosy while feeding her. This worked and she now feeds really well and I can keep her dressed. I also had engorged breasts; my milk came in with a vengeance and my little boobs didn't have the room for it all. They were so painful and sore. They were leaking and just making a mess. Thank goodness for my breast pump, it saved me in those first couple of weeks. They have now settled right down. Remember the pain doesn't last forever. Keep persevering.
+ Babies know when you have just made your breakfast, lunch or a hot drink. This is when they wake up and want to be fed. Get used to either enjoying your food cold or having to reheat or remake.
+ I am now a pro at getting by using one hand!
+ Many tears have been shed and I have even walked away once or twice because I just need to re-group when she won't stop crying. I have allowed myself to be okay with this. Being a mum is hard work and I can't always be on top of my game. Some days are tougher than others and some days I cope better than others.
+ Ava hates being wrapped, she wants her hands to be free but when she manages to wriggle her gorgeous little arms free she startles herself and wakes herself up. I can always tell when she has managed to get an arm free, her sleep is unsettled and she makes heaps of moaning sounds. I am always on a mission to do the best wrap ever, but without cutting off her circulation of course. I would love for her to understand that wrapping gives her a sound sleep.
+ Add at least 20 minutes to your about to leave the house time. You may need to change a nappy, make sure you have everything in your nappy bag, pop bubs in the capsule and settle her down, grab your bag, grab the car keys, lock the house up, unlock the house because you forgot something and finally put the baby in the car. Phew!!
+ Strangers will talk to you when you have a baby in your arms. I went to the doctors yesterday as Ava caught my cold and I wanted to get her checked out (she is fine by the way). While we were waiting three different ladies all gushed over her and were having a good ol' chat to me. I have never had this before. It was so nice, but why do we need a baby to break the ice to talk to strangers?! We should be kind and chat to the people around us, who knows who you might meet.
+ You stay in your PJ's for most of the day and trackies become your staple clothing item. I was so excited to attend the Lorna Jane Business Chicks breakfast last week because I got to dress up in my skinny leg jeans and my heels. But I do love my comfy clothes and you need to be comfy when you are looking after a baby at home.
+ You get used to vomit being all over you. I don't blink an eye now when Ava pukes on me. I wipe it off and carry on with whatever I was doing.
+ Your babies poo doesn't bother you at all. Especially the first couple of nappy changes, when you have no idea what you are doing, you will get into a mess with their tar like poo. It is sticky, thick and there is lots of it. You just do what needs to be done and coo over their cute little bottom instead.
+ I love breastfeeding Ava, it is such a beautiful time between me and her, even when it is 2am. I made a vow to be thankful for every moment with her, even the sleep deprived middle of the night feeds. It is just me and her, nothing else matters in those moments!
+ You get used to the sleep deprivation. Something within you just keeps you going. Focus on the thought that it won't last forever and you will get a full night's sleep again...some day! And when people say 'sleep when the baby sleeps', good one!! Have you had a baby I feel like asking. There is washing to be done, a house to clean, dinner to cook, eating to be done and most importantly some down time doing something that makes you relax and unwind. Self-care is uber important when you are a mum.
Babies provide you with so much joy that all the above is so worth while. Enjoy every minute of it because as I've been told by so many people, it goes by quickly.
::Cherish the moments, even the tough ones.
What have you found yourself doing or have done with your little one/s? Share with us in the comments below, I would love to hear from you.
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