"What other people think of you, is none of your business"

Last night at boot camp, one of my clients was chatting to me about a quote that she recently saw, "What other people think of you is none of your business". I just love this quote because it is so true and I was compelled to write a blog post about this quote and topic.


Now what does that quote mean? It all comes down to not caring what other people think of you; wow powerful stuff right there! 


We live in a judgemental world unfortunately and we are all guilty of it. When we hear someone say something negative about us we automatically get upset and think 'why?' 'what have I done to that person?' 'that person doesn't even know me' and the many other thoughts that pop into your head. 


I am definitely someone that used to worry and stress about what people thought of me and when I would hear that they had this opinion of me that wasn't a positive one I would get upset and wrack my brain thinking why. But really who cares! Usually when people judge others, it is an insecurity that they have about themselves and it really has nothing to do with you. So why do we get upset?

We want everyone to like us but unfortunately that isn't ever going to happen, there will always be someone out there with something negative to say, which is a very sad thought, but it is true. So why put yourself through all that upset and stress when you can't change that persons opinion and it is mostly likely someone that isn't close to you any way; well I would hope not because then why are they in your life in the first place? But that is a whole other topic right there.


Next time you hear someone have an opinion about you, before you get upset I want you to stop your automatic train of thought and remember this quote, say to yourself "What other people think of me is none of my business" and then carrying on with your day with a smile on your face and a bounce in your step.


Let me know a time when you got upset by an opinion and how did you react? Share with me in the comments below.  



My story: 


At one stage of my life I was part of a male dominated world (CFA), not many females around but this is where I met my best friend. We were maybe one out of four females in this group but we didn't care, we were surrounded by caring men who treated us like their little sisters and we saw them as our big brothers. 


Being a volunteer fire fighter can be dangerous at times so it was always comforting to know these guys had our back and would take that extra care when we were around. But because we were young females surrounded by men a couple of their wives and girlfriends were not fans of us, we could tell in the looks they would give or the little comments that they would make. 


To be honest we weren't there for anything other than to serve our community and help people in the most horrible of situations but some of these ladies didn't see it that way. This used to get to me, because I knew that they didn't even know me and if they did they would have known better. But I look back now and realise that I could never change their opinion and that is fine because I knew why I was a CFA volunteer and that is all that matters!




Be happy & healthy,