Do you know the saying "you can have it all, just not all at once"?
I am going to change this saying for the sake of this blog post, it now states "you can do it all, just not all at once".
I had a tough week just gone, it was big lessons for this mama to learn.
Little Miss A is changing her routine again. Every time this happens it throws me through a loop. I get very overwhelmed and emotional for a few days. I try to do what I was doing for her old routine, but I can't so I get frustrated, with her, myself and my situation.
It really is like a big pity party for myself, which is totally fine. We need to have these moments in our life.
I had a great chat with my hubby, because everything was just getting too much. We both decided that something needed to give and change. And we came up with a plan. A plan that will work for this new routine of hers and for me.
I am excited by this new approach of getting out of the house to work, scheduling and being more present.
Not once has my husband made me feel like I need to do everything, that is all on me. Because he leaves the house to go to work, I feel as though I need to always have a clean home and dinner on the table for him when he gets home.
But I work from home, I don't leave to see clients, but I still work! And I work early morning's and evening's when hubby is home to look after Little Miss A. It works well, but for me to continue to grow my biz I need more than that, but when I try to do those thing during the day when she naps, it doesn't go to plan.
This mentality that I have to do everything is just getting too much and FINALLY I am realising this. Thank goodness I say!
I believe that we can as mum's do everything, but we need to be okay with knowing that we can't do everything all at once. We need to surrender to this fact and be comfortable with this.
My new approach to mamahood, wifehood and boss lady is to give myself permission NOT TO WORK during the day Monday to Friday. It is just too hard and stressful.
I will save seeing clients for early morning and evening and all the other stuff will be on Saturday's at the library and possibly a day during the week when my mum can look after Little Miss A for a couple of hours, while again I head to the library.
The key is NO DISTRACTIONS!
Being a working mum is hard work. We put all these expectations on ourselves. But hunnie, you can't do it all and be happy and present. The two just can't work together.
Another strategy I have put in place is getting my groceries delivered. It saves me an hour and a half of my life every week for the cost of a $10 delivery fee. My time is worth more than that $10.
So my lived and learnt lesson to you is, be okay with having a messy house while your bubba is sick or teething and needs you.
Be okay with taking a couple of hours on the weekend to work or have you time.
Be okay with cooking up all your dinners on a Sunday so you don't have to worry about it during the week.
Be okay with saying no to invitations to parties or dinners when all you want to do is stay at home in your PJ's with a glass of wine.
Be okay with not making the bed or having a shower.
Just be okay and surrender to motherhood.
It can be really hard and tough. It can be you crying on the floor because you are at your wits end. But if you surrender and just allow yourself to go with the flow knowing that certain things may not get done, the situation won't be as bad. You will be able to cope better and be in the present moment instead of future tripping about what you 'should' be doing instead.
I would love to hear what are some of your strategies to make your life easier or to save time? Let me know in the comments below.
Be happy & healthy,