I must admit, the past few months have been a little rocky and unsettled for me.
Not knowing when or new house will be finished or when I need to finish up seeing my personal training clients. Can I go to this event or will it be moving day?
Everything has felt in the air...and I really don't do well with this I've learnt. I like to be able to plan things and know what I'm doing and when. So needless to say I am itching to get into our new home.
The empty time frame expectations that we have been given by our builder over and over again has really done a number on this organised and impatient woman.
I feel exhausted, emotional, unstable and on edge. I think I will collapse in relief when those silver keys are handed over to us and we now know what we are doing and when (please hurry up)!!
But the lesson I am trying to find in all this is very similar to the feelings I had when I was pregnant with Ava. She tried to arrive early at 32 weeks and then held on until her due date (prompt and precise is my little girl) with me on bed rest for those 8 weeks. Again that not having control, instability and impatience got the better of me then too. Until I came across the very simple word SURRENDER.
If you have followed my work for a while, you would know that this word pops up every now and then. It is a simple word but has so much meaning.
It doesn't mean giving up and throwing in the towel (that my pretty is too easy and boring), no it means to stop the need for control and allow yourself to trust that the process will happen in its own time. The right time.
For someone like me who is impatient (are you the same?) this word drives me crazy. I think I have it and then the need for control comes creeping back in. I don't think I have surrendered to the process of building our new home because for f@ck sakes hurry up already (sorry for the swearing), but I am using some tools to help keep the instability and lack of control at bay as much as possible.
Practice makes perfect yeah?
My tools are simple and easy to follow, yes they may not work for everyone which is why I say try and experiment until you find what works for you, but here goes...
+ BREATHE! Yes this may be meditating or it may simply be taking a few deep belly breaths to calm your mind and body down when anxiety begins to creep up on you.
+ GO OUTSIDE and get some fresh air - if it is sunny, even better, soak up that vitamin d like no one's business.
+ WRITE down in your journal everything you are feeling, let it out of your mind and body. This helps so much, my journal can be like my therapist at times.
+ TALK it through with someone who won't judge you, won't offer advice but will simply listen to what you have to say. And cry if you need too. This person will just totally listen to you, offer a hug if you want it and just sit with you as you let your frustrations out.
+ MOVE your body. This may mean exercise for you or it may mean pump up that music and dance around like a crazy person to your favourite songs. Get that energy moving so it can release itself.
+ STEP AWAY from the situation if you can and need to. For me I did this a couple of months back. My hubby took over dealing with all the house stuff, I even took a break from visiting the house.
Whatever your situation, I hope these little nuggets help you out and get you closer to SURRENDERING to what we have no control over. Everything happens when it is meant to happen, even when that isn't our plan. News flash, we can't control what the universe has in store for us, we just need to buckle up and go for the ride. And what a ride life can be!
How do you go with surrendering to a situation? Do you find it easy or difficult? Let me know in the comments below I would love to hear from you.
Be happy & healthy,