When it comes to saying the word 'no' a lot of us are scared and feel as though we will upset someone if you don't say yes and I am one of those people or should I say, used to be one of those people.
I have now realised that it is okay to say 'no' because sometimes you just need to. Whether you are too busy and can't really fit it in or you just want to have a quiet night at home reading a book and enjoying a cup of tea. That is okay!
We all seem to want to be people pleasers and we think that by saying yes all the time it will make us a better person. Well really it isn't, because you are going to get run down or resentment may creep in, in turn causing unnecessary stress and what use will you be to any one then if you are grumpy and on edge?
This is especially hard for parents, because you feel as though you can't say no to your kids but you need to remember that to look after your kids you need to be able to look after yourself. And let's face it sometimes you need to put yourself first! Do you want to be 50% present for your kids or 100% present? The latter is what I would choose. Spend time with your kids in a happy state of mind and not only half there because you can't get that time back...live in the present moment.
If you start saying 'no' you will become happier and less stressed which enables you to be 100% committed and present to other things in your life such as work, parenting and being a great friend.
This week say 'no' to something that you know you can't fit in or you just don't want to do and make sure you back yourself 100% with saying 'no'. Remember it is okay and nothing bad will come from it, it is all about looking after you, so you can be a happier person.
Be happy & healthy,