How do you spend quality time with your partner? The key word here being, QUALITY.
Last week I was out at a local cafe with my hubby, brother and sister in-law. We were sitting there talking away, catching up and having a laugh. It was a good time. But I noticed a couple that came and sat at the table next to us.
So this couple went and ordered their food, came and sat down, played on their phones, ate their food, sat looking around the cafe and then got up and left. There was literally hardly any talking what so ever between this couple. They would have been in there early to mid twenties.
Now I am not here to judge these people because I don't know their story, I just really felt sad that they had nothing to say to each other and thought looking at their phones was more exciting.
These are young people who should have so much to say to each other. What has happened to communication?
Now I have written a blog on the topic of putting your phone down and enjoying life, but instead of going into that again, I wanted to give you some tips on how to get the most quality time with your partner,
Quality time doesn't have to be going out for date night or spending a romantic weekend away together, but these things are great to do, so please by all means do these as well. But I am also talking about being just at home in each others company. You can get some great quality time there if you just follow a couple of my easy tips below...
+ Put your phone away!
My husband and I have a rule when we are together, our phones are put away. They don't sit on the table or stay in our hands, unless we are taking photos if we are out and about. I want to be in his company, I don't want to be scrolling through Facebook or liking photos on Instagram when we are together.
+ Talk to each other!
Each night my hubby and I eat dinner together at the dining room table with the TV off. We ask each other about our day and speak about anything else that has popped up that has taken our interest. We have some great discussions during these times and they are so special. Asking him/her about their day allows them to chat and open up about any frustrations or stressors that may have arised that they may not have other wise spoken about. Stress needs to be released!
+ Listen, like really listen!
Yes you may have other things on your mind, but you need to be really listening to what your partner is saying. Make eye contact. Engage in what they are saying. Show them that you care about what they are talking about.
+ Make physical contact with each other, every single day!
A bear hug, a good 'ol pash, whatever it may be, keep that physical contact happening. Don't get lost in the same old routine where affection is lost.
+ Tell each other 'I love you' all the time and mean it!
My hubby and I always tell each other 'I love you' before he leaves for work, when we are finishing a phone conversation, before going off to sleep and other times throughout the day.
I'm not trying to be a relationship expert here, I am just going off my own personal experiences with past relationships and now my marriage. Being happy and engaging with your partner is so important and a big part of being happy with your life. It all goes hand in hand with your career, health and family life. I want you to be happy in all areas because you deserve to be.
I just felt compelled to share this with you after feeling so sad for that couple I mentioned above. Relationships shouldn't be like that! You should be happy and if you're not, then maybe something needs to change.
I would love to hear from you, what do you and your partner do to spend quality time together? Please leave your comments below.
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