Give yourself permission to be happy..

Give yourself permission to be happy...

8/7/2015

True happiness is such a beautiful feeling and something that has taken me years to allow myself to fully feel. To be open to it with outstretched arms and even at times, chase it down.

I know that may sound a little strange, but bear with me a little longer...

Before I got into the wellness industry I used to think that if I felt content and truly happy with my life something bad would happen and take it all away.

Now does this sound familiar?

How silly is that? We stop ourselves from embracing true happiness because something bad MIGHT happen to us and take that feeling away.

"WooHoo I got that new job I applied for, but I can't be truly happy about this because something else in my life is now going to go wrong."

This used to be my internal dialogue when it came to good things happening in my life.
So sad.

And guess what? Something 'bad' usually did occur because that is what I told myself would happen and what you put out into the universe comes back to you. So be careful where your thoughts take you.

Life is full of up's and down's. Bad and shitty things are going to happen, that is part of life. But for whatever reason in our minds we think that those shitty things are related to the good things. Well hunnie, it isn't true!!

"You deserve to be blissfully happy and you can be happy without the worry of what is coming next.

And when the shitty things do happen, which they inevitably will, you are able to deal with them a lot better. You will be a stronger person.

Life is shinier when you are truly happy. Once I realised that I didn't need to live this way any more, the happy times were amazing and the 'bad' things didn't always follow like they used to. Why? Because I let go of that thought pattern. I released it and allowed myself to be open to true happiness.

Now being truly happy isn't about smiling all the time and shutting down your negative emotions. It's about being open to every emotion, good and bad. Feeling them. Crying. Feeling sorry for yourself. Expressing what you want to feel. And knowing that, that is okay.

Being open to everything is the way to live. Your not burying your head in the sand but you also aren't wallowing in your own self pity. You embrace everything that life offers. And boy is that a much better way to live.

Are you like the old me, scared of happiness? Or are you like the new me, open and willing to life and the experiences that come with that? Let me know in the comments below.

Remember my dear friend, life is here for you to enjoy to the maximum so don't waste your time here on this earth by not allowing yourself to embrace that. You deserve true happiness in all its forms. Just believe in it. And just believe in yourself.

Be happy & healthy,

10 Comments

CJ link

8/7/2015 03:40:58 am

I felt the same way, I couldn't be truly happy cause the moment I am that's when something bad will happen. It sounds so silly when I say it out loud. It's been something that I've been challenging for about 18 months now and I found last year (which was an extremely tough year with 2 miscarriages) I could still find moments where I felt happy and knew that it was a good thing. I almost believe it took those tragedies to realise that I can be feel happiness in life even during the worst times and not feel bad about feeling happiness.

Thank you for your posts and emails I love getting them.

Kylie Anderson

8/7/2015 03:54:26 am

It does sound silly when you say it out loud doesn't it? But it is something so many people struggle with. I believe it is our inner ego trying to keep us in a place of fear, somewhere we cannot grow and expand. Once we realise that and acknowledge that it is absolutely fine for us to be happy, amazing things happen. I'm so sorry to hear you had two miscarriages, I'm sending you so much love! I'm so glad that you could find happiness, you have too. It makes you stronger.

Thank you so much for sharing your story with me CJ and I'm so thrilled that you love getting my emails. That puts a massive smile on my face. xxx

Mvk link

8/7/2015 03:23:31 pm

Great share! Thank you. I completely understand this... This was me for about 12 years, my dream life was unfolding and I just kept waiting for the crash. It came for me- in the exact form I 'thought' it would- which scared me even more! A year on from that point and I'm determined to continue living my dream life- but with a very different mindset. It still challenges me sometimes- it's a mindful journey- but I'm reassured knowing I'm not alone in doing so! Thank you so much for sharing 💛

10/7/2015 01:03:29 am

My absolute pleasure, I'm so happy that you enjoyed this post! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. It definitely is a mindful journey and something that we need to keep working on as it is so easy to fall back into that type of thinking. Keep being happy!! xx

Erin

9/7/2015 01:42:44 am

I love this blog post. I'm definitely guilty of this pattern of thought. Self sabotage. Giving air time to the 'mean girl' inside me. Thanks for helping give me the strength to combat this toxic mentality xox

10/7/2015 01:04:53 am

Thank you so much!! I'm thrilled that you love this post, it is something that we need to check in with and make sure that we are allowing ourselves to be truly happy. It is so sad that we need to work on our mean girl to allow ourselves to feel this way. But at least we are aware of it and can work on it and quieten that mean girl voice down.xox

Kylie link

9/7/2015 06:52:58 am

This is always a good reminder. I think the shift I have had is understanding there is a difference of protecting ourselves and acknowledging that and then still feeling the darker emotions. Rather than feeding into the negativity, when something doesn't go my way. Life will always be up and down so embrace it!

10/7/2015 01:06:11 am

Absolutely Kylie!! Life is a roller coaster ride and once we accept that and are okay with that, life is so much nicer and we stop dwelling on the negative emotions. We can feel them, deal with them and then move on. Life is too short to be worried about what will happen next if I'm truly happy.xx

Kaye link

9/7/2015 10:37:51 am

Great post! It's easy to keep "waiting for the other shoe to drop," but harder to choose to be happy. But when you do, oh boy, is it wonderful! Thank you for the reminder to choose happiness.

10/7/2015 01:07:47 am

It sure is!! Life is amazing when you give yourself permission to be happy. Everything seems shinier and brighter and who doesn't want that!! I'm so happy you got a reminder to choose happiness xx

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