Since starting my business back in June 2013, I have morphed and changed so much over almost 4 years; which of course is to be expected. But little did I know how much comparison would strike during the explosion of social media and turning my business partially online.
I am constantly checking on Instagram and Facebook making sure I'm sharing and staying in people's minds. I want my business to continue to grow and most importantly, I want to continue helping mums becoming the best version of themselves.
I feel as though I need to keep updating and checking because what if I'm forgotten? What a ridiculous thought when you ponder that sentence.
The latest comparison that I am suffering from is not being as good as other mum bloggers out there. They have thousands of followers on Instagram, but it seems no matter what I try (hastags, commenting & sharing) I cannot seem to break the 2,000 followers mark.
Such anxiety and pressure comes from these negative self-inflicted thoughts that aren't even true. Why do we do this to ourselves ladies?
It then makes me question, what is wrong with me? Am I not good enough? What am I doing wrong?
Bloody hell, I feel as though I fall into a rabbit hole of comparison that I just can't seem to get out of. I want to be just like them. Reaching tens of thousands of people - making a difference in the world.
But why? Why do I feel as though I need to do that?
Society and social media tell us that is what is needed to be 'successful'.
I've always struggled with that word...SUCCESS and what that actually means for me. Will I be successful when I have 20,000 followers on Instagram, or when I have 5,000 people on my email list.
When is it ever going to be enough?
I feel as though that once I reach that point, I will move the goal posts on myself. Change the marker for what success means. So in other words, I will never be successful in my own mind. How depressing and sad is that?!
What a sad thought that I will get in my own way, stopping me feeling as though I have achieved this word SUCCESS - whatever it actually means.
Well I am done with not feeling good enough, because I am enough. I have helped hundreds of women so far with my business, blogging and social media. I am good enough. I am a success.
Yes I may not have 20,000 Instagram followers, but that shouldn't define the work I do in the world. Or for that matter, the impact I have on those 1,875 people that do follow me on Instagram (and thank you to each and every one of you).
I need to go back to a few months ago when I was doing Instagram for the fun of it. Other women were telling me they were loving what I was sharing on Insta Stories, and that should and is enough for me.
I am enough. And so are you.
Numbers do not define how successful or great we are. We need to trust we are enough and are doing what we are meant to be doing right now in this moment.
I know for me, I have women I admire and I don't reach out to tell them this, so maybe it is time that I started to send some emails to say, "hey I love your work and what you are doing in the world" because they may be having the same thoughts that I have.
We are all enough. Don't strive for numbers on your social media, strive to inspire, motivate and make the world a better place.
Thank you for being here!
Be happy & healthy,