I put this quote up on my Facebook page yesterday..."Either you run the day, or the day runs you" and boy did it resonate with quite a few of you. It is definitely a quote that triggers something in me and seeing it does the same for you, I thought it was worth having a chat about.
I used to be 'one of those people' who tarnished a whole day after one 'bad' thing happened. Put your hand up if you are one of THOSE people! I can see all the hands raised from here....and that is okay lovely. But I want to try and help you learn not to do that, because really, is it that bad?
Sometimes yes it is and when those things happen get upset, disappointed, sad, angry, frustrated and whatever other emotions come up for you. Feel them deep down in your core. Embrace the feeling. Let it wash over you. Then simply let it go.
I am not here to tell you that you need to be numb to anything horrible that happens to you. Shit does happen and it is healthy and normal to feel those emotions, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. But I am hear to tell you to not get stressed and upset about the little things that happen that really don't matter.
For instance...a flat tyre on your way to work, you dropped your breakfast all over the kitchen floor, you can't find your car keys, you slept in, your alarm didn't go off, you forgot about a meeting, your car won't start, your train is late, you can't find a car park and so on...add any others to your list.
Now when these sorts of things happen, what is really going to eventuate? You may be late for work, you have to re-make your breakfast, you have to go to work without your make up on etc. When you read these things now, what feelings come up for you?
When we are in that situation we automatically say to ourselves, "What a great start to the day! What else is going to happen?". Your stress levels increase and you get frustrated with yourself.
Can you hear your inner voice going crazy with negative thoughts and criticism. Once that thought is out there you are going to attract those things back to you.
Stop yourself next time...ask does this trivial incident really matter? What is the worst thing that is going to happen?
You will realise that NOTHING is going to happen, nothing bad anyway. If you stop those negatives thoughts in their tracks you won't go on to tarnish your whole day which is something that we do subconsciously. Once you let those negative thoughts run wild, all day you will be looking for more "bad things" that are happening and there goes a perfectly good day. By the time you get home your stress levels will be through the roof, you will be exhausted and feeling bleak. Now who wants to feel like that? I know I don't and it can be prevented.
Again, I just want to reiterate that I am talking about small senseless things that happen, not major life changing events. So keep that in mind...it isn't about numbing your feelings it is all about sorting out what deserves your time and energy to worry and get upset and what doesn't.
What does the above quote say to you? I would love to hear from you in the comments below...
Be happy & healthy,