A fun fact for you, did you know that men can't read our minds?
Yep, I'm being totally serious!!
Now I know I'm not alone in thinking this fact was false at some stage in my life.
Let me take you back to a time when you are with a boyfriend or husband. You are so pissed at the fact that they just did something that grates on you. So you glare at them, tell them telepathically that they shouldn't do that because it upsets you. You huff and puff and they just stare at you blankly asking if you are okay. You reply with a nod of the head and say "yes I'm fine" in a snotty tone.
Your blood continues to boil. You say to yourself "can't he tell I hate when he does that? What is wrong with him?"
He walks out of the room and you can feel your stress levels getting higher and higher. Resentment is starting to set in.
For the rest of the day you are quiet and answer his questions in as short a sentence as possible.
Does this sound familiar?
I did this all the time to my poor hubby as well as my previous boyfriends. Now that I look back I feel sorry for doing this to them. But I was under the false pretense that men knew what was going on in my head by just the way I acted or the way I looked at them (or glared).
Now that I'm aware of the fact that my hubby can't read my mind, I do the simple thing of communicating with him. Yep, simple really.
I mention how I feel when he does 'x' and we can then both move on. He then knows not to do whatever it is and we can live on happily ever after.
Have you seen the movie He's Just Not That Into You?? If you haven't you must watch it because it is so true and hilarious.
Men are simple beings who like to be told what is going on.
No guessing games.
They don't muck around analysing everything and using body language to communicate when it comes to women.
They tell it like it is.
It is us women who make things complicated and more stressful for ourselves than necessary.
So my lesson for you today is to just communicate with your partner. Talk to him about how you feel. At the end of the day you will both be happy and you save yourself a lot of huffing and puffing and eye rolling.
I would love to hear your stories about this topic, do you not speak with your partner but give him the silent communication that never seems to work? Or are you open and communicate? How do either of them make you feel? Share with me in the comments below.
Be happy & healthy,