I have been on maternity leave for 7 weeks now and I was made to slow it down straight away after my 32 week ultrasound (if you don't know my story you can watch my video blog here) and for someone who likes to be busy whether it be working, catching up with friends or moving my body; being told to instantly quit all this to rest and relax was a huge deal.
Are you or have you been in a similar situation? Know you are not alone!
The tips I am going to share with you below are things that I have found worked for me, but keep in mind that feeling as though I am in a good place mentally took time. It took me weeks and weeks of soul searching and trying different things to get me out of my head and into the present moment but I can tell you it has been worth it.
Let's jump into it...here are my tips for slowing down when you are a 'go getter'...
We tend to want to control everything that happens in our lives, but that isn't how it works unfortunately. Whatever is meant to be will be and it doesn't matter what you do to try and fight it, it just is. The sooner you can surrender to this fact and take it for what it is the sooner you will be happier and not so frustrated. I know for me, it took me weeks to come to terms with my situation but once I realised I had no control over it, I felt so much better. I literally meditated and told myself I was surrendering and the calm that came over me was so refreshing.
+ Make the most of the down time
Do you have things you have always wanted to do but never had the time? Well you now have the time, so do those things. Have bubble baths, read lots of books, sleep in, drink lots of tea snuggled up on the couch, write in your journal, what movies, meditate, learn to knit, meet up with friends, go for long walks, spend time in nature, cook up a feast...you get the idea.
I can't go far on my own so that has made what I can do a little tricky but I have made the most of it. I have been to the library and borrowed so many books; it has been so nice to read heaps of fictional books for a change. I stay in bed for longer or go back to bed during the day to read and snuggle up with my cats. I have been doing heaps of journaling and meditating which can sometimes go to the way side when I get 'so busy'.
+ Get excited about what you CAN do instead of what you CAN'T do
Don't focus on the negatives, so don't allow yourself to say things like "but I can't do this" or "I can't do that". Focus on what you CAN do! You can't change the things that you are unable to do at the moment, so change that around to focus on the positives of what you can now do. Get creative with your time!
+ Meditate and journal
This has been a huge game changer for me, it really has got me through and out the other side. I wrote a blog post earlier this week about the power of both meditation and journaling which you can read here.
+ Talk about your feelings
Talk to someone, anyone, about how you are feeling. Don't pretend everything is fine and dandy when you don't actually feel that way. Keeping your emotions inside is not good for any one. Allow yourself to cry, get angry and upset. Chat to your partner, a friend or your mum...whoever is your sounding board. Express everything that is coming up for you. Letting all this out will make you feel so much better.
When I got out of hospital and was home I burst into tears and just chatted to my husband about everything I was feeling. Everything I had been through hit me like a ton of bricks but I felt so much lighter once it was all out in the open.
If you feel you can't or don't want to speak to someone, write all your feelings out in your journal. Getting it all out in any way that feels good for you is the important part. And know you can always send me an email, I'd be happy to listen to you.
+ Know it won't last forever
Sometimes we can get deep in our own pity party that we feel as though there is no end in sight. Remember, "this too shall pass". Situations like whatever you are going through will get easier, it won't feel hard forever. Plus it will be a shorter period of time if you start to work on that mindset of yours with these tips I'm sharing with you.
I hope these tips have made you feel a bit better about what is going on in your life right now. Sudden occurrences can really rattle you and that is absolutely okay to feel that way. It takes time to change the way you think and feel towards a situation, so be kind to yourself.
Give yourself the space to do whatever it is that it needs to do to get through.
I would love to know your tips, what have you done when you have had to slow down? Share with us in the comments below.
Be happy & healthy,